New Beginnings
April showers, bring May flowers. Spring. New growth and new beginnings. In this post, I would like to address the acceptance that comes with new beginnings and making changes.
To start fresh and new, we must also embrace the changes that occur! Here are some ways that you may accept those changes and embrace the new beginnings occurring in your life.
Letting GO
While it is great to reflect upon the past to learn from it, one must also release any regrets or anguish from the past, to embrace new.
Reflection: I have a friend named G who really gets under my fur! He barks out of the blue and upsets me, he is so hyper and huge. Just last month, he stole my bone! G is my example in each section, on how I dealt with the situation.
Acceptance of what Is
In our society, we are taught at a very young age to control: controlling our anger, emotions, thoughts and feelings for ourselves and others. Letting go, is the opposite of control! May I suggest we accept that often, things happen to make room for growth and needed change? A butterfly will never be, without the struggle of her cocoon.
Reflection: I really wanted that bone. It was probably going to be the best bone I ever had. I needed to accept what is: G stole my special bone. He then ate it. I will never get it back.
Change
Changing is like breathing. If your mindset is stuck within one way of thinking, why not explore other ways? I will defer to Byron Katy who in The Work, involves asking four simple questions about each belief that causes us pain:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do you react when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without the thought?
Reflection: I may either remain upset G stole my bone a month ago, or I may give him grace that he must have wanted that bone very badly. I mean, it was the most special bone ever. Well, is that absolutely true?
Focus on the Good
Have you ever watched a sad movie and noticed that now you are unhappy (when you were in a great mood)? You may remain sad, you may even make yourself much more sad! Grab some of those old memories and cry away. Or, you may think about the gifts and the amazing blessings you have surrounding you. Giving empathy doesn’t require you to feel what another is feeling! It simply requires your love and grace, and the knowing release that the situation will become better.
Reflection: Now that I think of it, G is a nice friend. That bone I was worried about not eating, doesn’t equate to him not being present in my life. He looks at me like I am the coolest dog ever (which I am of course).
Take time for Yourself
When was the last time you soaked in the hot springs, sweated in the sauna, and relaxed in a wonderfully hot jacuzzi that massaged your muscles like little wonders of nature? Self care is so important to everyone. Without it, we may burn out and find it hard to see the joy in life. When hard tests appear, having a full cup of I Love Myself works wonders.
Reflection: I had my dad give me a nice long hot bath and requested a delicious treat. Because I love myself and I am worth it.
Appreciate Your Growth
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